They lied to you.
You can’t have it all.
And the reason you can’t have it all is because everything costs. Everything. It always amazes me when people act like they don’t know this.
Like the pastor in (Really Huge Denomination) who told me she wishes she could do what I do, but she can’t because she has a family and needs health insurance and has responsibilities.
So I told her I have responsibilities and a family too – which is why the first two years I did this work, I did all sorts of work on the side – everything from working in a gym to freelancing to selling hot dogs outside a gay leather bar at 3 in the morning. (Remind me to tell you that story sometime…). None of that was fun, but that is what it cost to build a ministry like the one I envisioned.
She was not impressed. To her way of thinking, the denomination should pay her to build a ministry like the one she envisioned. But like Will Campbell said, that’s not freedom. It is just another form of bondage.